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Originally Posted by dreamseeker9
You attached to him at your 2nd session - wow! I'm on Session 8, and while I am trusting my T more, I feel like I'm still holding back emotionally, not sure why. I do want all those things you listed, though - hopefully, they'll come naturally with some more time.  |
Even though I attached to him quickly, that did not mean I didn't hold back emotionally. I don't think of those things as the same. I think you could be extremely attached to your T and still hold back very much. Maybe you are attached?!
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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Therapy has helped me realize I can do more with these interactions if I can risk a negative outcome once in a while.
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chaotic, that is how it is for me too. Before therapy, I had a much harder time taking those risks. Now I feel like I can take more risks and it is not such a big deal if I am rebuffed or my feeling not accepted by whoever I take the risk with. Like, yeah, big deal, he doesn't get me, or he's on the wrong side of bed today, or hmmm, I just shared with her, and she totally did not respond. And I move on. I survive. I learned it's not the end of the world to make myself vulnerable and be rejected. Of course, I still only do this on small scale and when the stakes are relatively low, but it is big progress for me. No risk, no gain.