This is just the type of situation John Gray discusses in his self-help book 'Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars'. Women express their fears and insecurities because they want to be listened to and to know that others care about them, but men misinterpret this and think try to provide them with answers.

This is a classic communication breakdown between women and men, and probably takes place between millions of couples throughout the world every day.

Your husband means well but just doesn't know any better. Perhaps the book would help you both. I read parts of it a few years back and thought that it contained some pretty good insights and advice.



My husband was listening to me talk about some painful things from my past, and jumped into the conversation with 'the people who hurt you don't think about you. They won't come see you, call you, or even waste time thinking about you.' I couldn't believe he said that! He said he was trying to make me feel safe! I say he was trying to hurt me by rubbing the obvious in. I am so upset right now! He was supposed to be the one who didn't abuse me, now this crap! Thanks for letting me vent![/quote]