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than you for starting this thread. the philosophy & theory behind DBT triggers me also. i will personally scratch anyone's eyes out who ever tried that sort of stuff on me.

edit: as for your question of why you should tolerate the intolerable - i read an article on DBT a while back (not sure if it was by the devil-woman or not) which said that this is one of the preliminary goals of DBT: figuring out whether your circumstances really are tolerable or not. e.g., no good therapist is going to try and make you continue to live in abusive situation by making it "tolerable". if your life really is untolerable, they would want to help you make the changes necessary to make it ok (actually, devil-woman said that the therapist should call the px's bluff and ask them why they don't just kill themselves right that day. i hate her, i really do).

but if external safety and basic needs are being met, then they might work with you to help tolerate all those triggers that we find in normal life. e.g., someone asked me out recently and i flew off the deep end - this is something i imagine a DB-therapist would want to make more 'tolerable'.