I would be upset too. Afterall, he was the one who served him, so he knows what it is all about. No one should have to put up with what you have been putting up with....not sure why he married you in the first place other than to make you his slave, trapping you into a marriage by telling you that no one else would love you.

I understand the problem of getting pushed & pushing back to give them what they feel is a reason to hurt you...have experienced that too many times.....My psychologist is trying to work on my walking away from things like that, but I am a fighter & not really willing to walk away even though it is probably for my own good. I don't back down either. I initially tried to get a restraining order for mental abuse, only it isn't for that...only for physical abuse which it has turned into at times also.....I am glad you got the protective order for you with the threats. Now that you have taken positive actions for yourself, maybe you will be feeling better about yourself & stop harming yourself....you don't want him to harm you, so don't do it to yourself.