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Originally Posted by spiritual_emergency
What would be ideal is if your boyfriend could also talk to some men who have gone through his experience so that he could also have the opportunity to come to terms with his own feelings about the abortion. You could try checking with a place such as Planned Parenthood to see if they can make any recommendations for the both of you. It's also possible that he has some males within his own social circle who have been in his position and might be willing to offer some personal support to him. An older brother perhaps. His own father. Maybe it would be helpful for him to talk with a young father as well. You could suggest this to him but it would be up to him to actually follow up on it.
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He says that he has told his brother and he agrees with him about it! and my boyfriend had an awful relationship with his father when he was younger, he was abused and now hates his father and refuses to talk to him. I think thats part of the reason he was so upset with the abortion. he felt he didn't have a father so he wanted to be that perfect father to a child.
Something I forgot to add to my post was that several of our fights have gotten physical but he has never put a hand on me. It has always been me hitting him or grabbing him. I haven't done it in a while but I'm afraid I will. I feel like the anger in me just builds and I go crazy and make a big scene. I don't ever really hurt him but it makes me feel awful because i know he would never hit me...
Thank you guys for your replys!! they're very helpful!