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Jun 04, 2009, 06:47 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
Location: Suffolk
Posts: 99
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Originally Posted by robin620
I don't want to put a damper on your love, just be careful. I met a man on a dating website. We e-mailed, snail mailed, and called each other for over 2 years. I flew down to spend time with him, and he flew to spend time with me. For Christmas that second year he gave me a ring. Then I moved down to where he lived and the bottom fell out.
He wanted a distance relationship (probably so he could tell his friends he had a girlfriend) but not a real one. He never told his friends it was a promise ring so when I met them in person, they asked how he proposed to me. Talk about an ackward situation!?! After only 4 months of living in the same city I got the "let's just be friends" speech. We could exchange multiple e-mails in a day, but we couldn't live in the same city with me.
I'm not saying it WON'T work, just letting you know to be cautious. Distance love can be exhilirating, but make sure that feeling is still there when you are in the same place as well.
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Thank you for your concern, i have not gone into this with closed eyes tho. We didnt meet on a dating site and were not looking for love when we met and became friends, it grew over time. Neither of us find it exhilarating, it is hard work and heart breaking at times. All of his friends know about me and his mother and i exchange gifts when he comes over. When we get together i will lose nothing, he is coming to me, there is no way i would go over and live unless we had actually been been together for a few years. I have social anxiety and a severe flying phobia, also i am disabled so he is taking on a lot as i need constant help with day to day living and even tho he has fairly severe social anxiety too and is not keen on flying, he always comes here and just fits in with me and my family and friends, we live as normal, no special holiday outings etc, just us 24/7. He nursed his mum back to health after she had a stroke so he knows something about what it takes to look after a dependant person. We are online together all the time around the clock when he is at home on webcam, living normal life together but in two countries. We both feel that we stand a good chance of being happy together, with understanding that we didnt get from our first marriages. I am sorry things didnt work out for you, but hope you are over the hurt now and didnt let it keep you down. 
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