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Old Jun 04, 2009, 08:40 PM
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I wonder if that is part of the difference between a secure and an insecure attachment in the therapy relationship?? The T's attitude towards the attachment?? I think that if T was somehow resisting my attachment, it would make things so hard....
I think it is essential to secure attachment that the person you are attaching to be accepting of it. If they don't want you attached and communicate that to you, then it puts you in the position of always wondering if they care; if they will reject you; if you only do things right, maybe they will accept your connection. That would be very insecure, that would be hell. (That was my marriage.) So the person's acceptance of attachment is essential, I think, but there are other components to a secure relationship also.
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