(((((((((Leslie and all the Pixies)))))))))))))

You have not failed your children. You have done what you could with what you had to work with. I am sure they understand.....
You and they are all on the same page and that is validating in itself. You are not the only one, nor is your daughter. Together you will find the answers.

Remember who is your Strength and your Guide and your Light.
Keep that focus and Wisdom with come.