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Originally Posted by sweetpea_tx
My boyfriend started going to AA on Tuesday... his last drunk was Monday. He's getting into it, and he's doing really well, so far. My problem is that I just went back on meds on May 26, and the side affects are still beating my backside. He has a bad dream, and he calls me... repeatedly, until I answer the phone. We talk, he feels like he can sleep again, and we get off the phone. Sleep elludes me for awhile, and when I get back to sleep, I end up sleeping way later than I intended. That gets him aggitated because he says all I'm doing is sleeping the day away and he needs support. I'm no stranger to AA... at one time, I was three plus years sober, and I was the clubhouse manager for a year... but as far as supporting him, I'm at a loss.
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sweet_pea,
You can support him in many ways, but not to the point it's hurting you.
Doesn't he have a sponsor?
He's most likely feeling "raw" right now and can't see beyond his own needs. You, however, are bearing the brunt of it.
Perhaps talking with him about it in a calm, non-accusatory way will help...setting boundaries with him early on can save you a lot of heartache later on.
Best wishes--and remember to take care of you, you are important also,
Catherine