Sunrise,

I wonder if you husband will ever look back and say... boy what an *** I was to her? Although you stated that you think your H just doesn't even consider how his actions affect others, I wonder if this is really true or if he was just feeling the need to attempt to suck a little be more energy from you before you are gone for ever. Sometime I feel like my H says little things not so much to deliberately put me down, but to somehow elevate himself in some way. When I hear some of the comments he makes now, the are not as hurtful to me anymore. I find myself asking, "why did he need to hear himself say that?"

Like... why did your H feel the need at that moment to mention he had a girlfriend? Was it his way of telling himself...."Hey, I'll be alright I already have another woman waiting on the sideline." Or was it his way of letting the others in the room know, "I've still got it."

It just seems really shallow and something a hurt, insecure little boy would do. IDK maybe I am just associating it with things my H does in an attempt to get attention and feel better about himself. I really don't think he does it to specifically attack or hurt me.

I really like the way your T is with you but at the same time moving you forward. Sounds like you are embarking on a new life chapter that has the potential to be wonderful.