I don't know your circumstances and whether or not you had some sort of SA previously but I can share my experiences...

I was raped when I was 17 and while I still am drawn to men, at least visually, I can't trust them and am not entirely comfortable being physical with them.

I do have my best friend who was there for me and I love her and there are times when I feel like I want to persue more of a physical and emotional attachment with her...

If you are married and you're not getting the kind of physical and emotional affection and feeling that kind of attachment with your husband, part of what you feel may be somewhat because you see that women are naturally more nurturing and giving, more caring and more in-tune with the things a woman wants and needs both emotionally and sexually...because they are women too.

If your husband is indifferent to your needs...it's time to have a serious talk...and if he is one who won't listen...then maybe you put down on paper how you're feeling and what you see the issues being and ask him to read it...then maybe work toward a solution together.

If it's impossible to do so...then maybe you need to reach deep down and decide if the marriage is really worth the sacrafice...if the answer is no, then make your way out.

Solace comes first within our own minds before it comes in the arms of another.

Hugs,
Stormy