There are so many issues involved it doesn't sound like this relationship will succeed without a serious overhaul.

I would like to offer a bit of advice about being in a relationship with an alcoholic in recovery. It's a lot of work, even though you don't have a problem, if you want to support him in his journey to remain sober you have to change your lifestyle too. It's not your responsiblity to keep him sober, but on the other hand you shouldn't be putting temptation in the way either. The facebook thing is pure silliness in my opinion.

I come from a long line of professional drinkers. The only ones that have been successful in remaining sober have been couples that BOTH people stopped drinking and avoiding those social activities that included drinking. My father was sober for 10 years before my mother picked up a drink socially again. My Aunt waited about 5 years. Even though you may not have a problem, it is a committment to a lifestyle change.

Is this man worth you changing your entire life? Changing how you deal with your male friends? Your banter may be considered flirting and while it may mean nothing to you or the person your talking to, it can really irritate someone that already has trust issues. Sounds like this man has a lot of issues, is he worth it?