Hi,
I have a huge problem with my 18 year old son. He does pick after himself, does whatever he likes at home, hogs the TV, messes the family room and his room. Is very abusive and violent when angry. He is so unreasonable that he will say anything to hurt me. As his mother, I practically do everything for him like his application to the university, driving him to work and back whenever I can. I have stopped doing this for the time being and told him he is own his own. 2 days ago, my husband called the police because he didnt like the way I was telling him about leaving dirty dishes in the sink, leaving water bottles on the sofa, etc. He called me a ***** ( for the 1st time) and I slapped him and he took a swing at me and I think stopped in the nick of time but he punched and kicked his dad. The police gave him a final warning. He still behaves as though it was my fault for yelling at him and causing the problem . He said I am the problem at home. I do have serious problems with my husband. He leaves the repsonsibility of managing the household, children and everything in between to me. If the bulb goes out, the garage door breaks down, the thermostat fails, the heat is not working, sink clogged, etc, etc. I will have to look for the right people to fix these problems. There is no way he will take the initiative to do anything. I had to assemble the fertiliser spreader when he bought it because he couldnt. I set up the new 52" TV , dvd player, staellite receiver , the whole works when we bought the TV. I pay the mortgage payments, utility bills, childrens clothes, etc while he only pays for groceries and gas for the car AND he says he provides for the family. There is a lot of fights, yelling at home either my son and I or with my husband. Both of them say I am the problem at home. By the way, I have arthiritis for the last 20 years and its taking its toll on me to be so stressed, hence my yelling. They both want me to shut up and do everything without bothering them. I am not anyone maid, handy man, cook , etc. My 2 girls are fed up. My 17 year old daughter ran away 3 months ago because she could not stand her brother and the disharmony at home. She is now home but is on anti depressants. My family is falling apart right before my eyes and it appears to be my fault.

Falling apart