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Jun 06, 2009, 10:44 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2008
Posts: 265
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Originally Posted by anna342
Thanks, I totally understand what you are saying. I think I'm going to get moved to my new place, settle in and sorted, then see what happens and if I feel willing to do it.
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Hi Anna,
Thanks for posting about what is going on and letting me know about the documentary. It sounds interesting and I am going to try to find it and check it.
I can relate in my own way to being resistent to therapy and uncertain. I agree with your decision to move etc...and then decide. Too many changes at once can be not only disruptive but also confusing.
I was/am extremely resistant to therapy. I have had some bad experiences and I was working with a therapist struggling to not only open up to him but having a really tough time getting beyond some trauma.
What I found out was that I was not alone in feeling that way. As resistant as I am I also want things to be different. It's hard and I struggle with it even after all this time. I don't think it's about finding someone you think that has all the answers, at least for me what I find is it's a growing experience. I just had an arugment with my therapist over something and we talked it through. I have gone in there and told my T that I am feeling really resistant and scared and that has helped. I am also a very private person and was not raised to "trust" anyone.
I guess I just want you to know that being resistant does not need to stop you. It's normal, but if you are SI'ing it might be really helpful to uncover some of the reasons and other ways to cope.
One more thing - I'm also bulimic and what helped me to realize that I needed some help regardless of my fears was a tv documentary that I was watching. By the end I was in a panic and just knew it was time to talk to someone.
Please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing...
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