Therapy evolves. I saw my therapist for 9 years and then we didn't see one another for 9 years and then I saw her again for another 9 years :-) It's personal needs, beliefs, style, and bargaining with one's therapist :-)

I wouldn't worry about what's going to happen a couple of years out, keep focusing on right now, talking to this therapist (she's right that you need to talk to her, not us :-) at this time! There is no right or wrong way to be, it's literally what you and she hammer out together. Despite The Bob Newhart Show, you can't "flunk" therapy :-)

Right now, remember that she's had a few years of doing this with lots of people and her thoughts and beliefs are based on her experiences (just like yours are). Whenever I felt like "arguing" with my T, I'd remember that she'd done something a certain way before and even if I thought my way might be better for me, I could try her way first and though it might be a bit slower/harder for me, at least I would have her "along" and one of us would have a clue? LOL