.. just as you are, Peg, by letting it happen and not fighting it.
Knowing darkness passes because it has before... it will again.

I don't know if you read for comfort, solace, self-help, but when I was in a time of grief that I thought I would not get through, I happened to pick up Judith Viorst's "Necessary Losses" and spot read it, finding parts that were helpful to me. (I tend to spot read anyway. Just because a non-fiction write organizes something one way doesn't mean I want to read it in that order. I think I have reader-oppositional disorder).

Although mine was not a love relationship, a romantic love relationship, I happened to open the book to chapter 16, 'Love and Mourning' and began there. "Mourning is the process of adapting to the losses of our life." Belief battles against disbelief.

I agree that talking with someone might be helpful.

"Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak.
Whispers the oe'r fraught heart, and bids it break." .. Shakespeare