It used to send me totally bonkers when I would send my T something and have it go unreplied. At first I thought all kinds of things like... she is trying to "condition" me to not email, she doesn't really care, she thinks I am being needy, she knows I really want a reply so she is using this to torture me. My mind went everywhere. Eventually I realized that: a) she did not check her business email address very often, b) she is very busy and can't be at my beck and call all the time, c) oftentimes there was little she could safely comment on without knowing more about what I was thinking or experiencing when I wrote the message. Although most of my messages seem to be explicitly clear (to me anyway), when I now go back and read them they were clear at all. Sometimes I go back and look at them and ask..."What was I really wanting from her when I sent this?"

I will say that recently, I'm not exactly sure why, I seem to get more replies from my T than I did early on. My T initially did not encourage me to email her, but did allow it. I think she strongly believes that face-to-face communication is the prefered mode of communication in therapy. I am trying hard to get better at that.

Since I have gone thought many nights angry about having an empty inbox, I would recommend that you try explicitly putting: REPLY REQUESTED in the subject line or first sentence of the email. If she still does not reply then go to your next session and ask her about email communications. You don't need to say...I emailed you and you never got back to me. You can just say something like, "when I am having trouble or am confused about something that happened, is it OK for me to email you? If the answer is YES. Then ask about if can expect a response. This way you will know more of what to expect. You will also likely hear the REAL reason that she did not reply to earlier messages.