dear abbi,

in some places inside of me they feel better if we think about others and they do give and give until they "give out" and go splat kaboom. then we get really sad because people around us don't seem to give but only take.

i think one big struggle in being multiple is balance. we are not so good at that because we have so many points of view and so many different needs and agendas.

you sound sad and i feel sad with you. maybe you need to do something for yourself if they don't see you and give to you. most all people struggle with selfishness at times and people can get so used to us giving to them that they forget to give back. that hurts me when it happens to me. it happened to me yesterday. i tried to give my husband support and he snapped at me and was unkind. grr. i don't seem to remember to ask him how he would like me to help. he's got job scaries going on and that is really scary when you're getting older in the job market.

i'm getting rambly and need to stop and get off cos it's late. maybe you could do something fun for a while tomorrow. it is important to take care of yourself. hugs from me if they would help!

leslie and her pixies