Not in the best space atm but will do my best cuz i care about you, my friend.

Yes, it was a verbal shot though that doesn't necessarily make him the bad guy. Guys are weird. They have huge egos that are easily bruised. So sorry guys here, but that has been my honest experience.

i would be very tempted to examine my actual contributions. You are doing your best even if you don't do a darned thing task wise...what you are attempting--to become healthy--is an ENORMOUS task that anyone with a brain should realize is, in fact, enormous.

For me, i used to be employed full time but have been on SSD (social security disability) for the past (ugh time...um...mother died in 2003...2004...2006?) crap i dunno anymore...i used to be highly employable.

But at home i need to occasionally evaluate what i actually do. I get my daughter's clothes ready for school every weekday. i dry her hair at night. She has autism and i care for her every day when she gets home from her transition program. i do the bills. i do a load of dishes and laundry almost every day. i'm the one that cleans the main bathroom (even though i was made to clean the bathroom every fricken day growing up and i mean clean the sink, toilet, and bathtub with comet..change the towels, and take out the garbage and if i got it wrong it was the perfect excuse)...and i shop 40% of the time and cook. So...maybe i don't also work a 9-5. Tough chit.

Don't let anyone belittle you. Pardon me if i'm being reactive...i'm truly sorry if so (not in the best place but moved to respond). Some people need humoring...but don't underestimate what you do even if there isn't a single chore involved. Did he have to survive it?