With my T it was usually, " So how's it going?" "How have you been feeling?" "What have you been thinking? " (his personal favorite) And after I answered his question I could then ask him how he was doing. This might sound weird, but it's one of the things I miss the most. I loved telling him what I was thinking. It's just a simple thing, but a simple courteous thing. I don't think it ever bothered me unless I couldn't find the words. I always wanted to tell him everything. Still miss him...