Rhapsody, I'll give you an opinion, but that is all it is okay? We act like parents for our tounger parts and at times need to protect them from their own impulses. If you allow these questions to be asked, are you prepared for answers that might not be the ones you'd hope to hear, or especially that the young one wants to hear? Would you have a way to handle a negative reaction? Support?
Those are very normal questions that all of us who were abused want answers to, but the answers we want are accepting, loving and nurturing. I am afraid that you will be hurt again if you do this, but if you are strong and need to confront your mother, then it is certainly your right to ask. If the questions come from a place of power within you, that would be better than if froma wounded part that is seeking validation. Be careful, okay, whatever you decide to do and keep in touch with us so we can support you in your decision. if safe