deli, how often do you see your T? How often your pdoc? A simple way to cut back on intimacy is to not see them so frequently. I see my PNP once a month for prescriptions. Last time, I didn't see in her in person, but we did a phone chat so she could check up on how I was doing on my meds. This really did cut down on the personal interaction. We only spoke 10 minutes or less and did not really connect but accomplished the "business" of the call efficiently. So you could try phone sessions to pull back from pdoc if you want. You've written here so fondly of your pdoc many times--do you really want to pull back?

Does it work this way for you? Does your T impart knowledge and then you change? For me, therapy would not work if it was so "thought-based". I can understand things cognitively really well, but that doesn't provoke or inspire change. For me, I need to feel things to truly understand them and internalize that knowledge so that it can lead to change.

Deli, since what you have written seems a different impulse than before, I wonder if sitting on these feelings for a while would be helpful? Maybe things will seem different in a couple of weeks.

If you really want to pull back from pdoc, you could discuss with him and maybe he could help with this. Or add his insights.