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Originally Posted by deliquesce
i dont want there to be any sort of acknowledgement about 'us', i just want it to be about me and my stuff and no sort of connection that might eventually draw me in and want me to trust that person.
or... kind of... i just want to maintain my independence and separateness. not encourage anything that might make me break and want to rely on someone else in the future.
this is ok with new-T, i just need to be aware of what leads where, and make sure i dont take the wrong path. but with pdoc, who's already in my inner sanctum, i don't know how to 'reset' the relationship. i want to get that distance back
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I feel stupid saying this, deli, but I rather admire the stand you're taking. It sounds shockingly contrary to all sorts of doctrine about what's supposed to be good for us, but I do think it would be best for you to be able to choose whatever distance/relationship (or non-relationship) suits you. I also wouldn't want to see you stuck with your choice, if you should change your mind later on. I'm not at all prepared to defend this position, which is probably why I feel stupid stating it right now.
Sorry to add that I have no suggestions for "resetting" your relationship with your pdoc -- only, have you any idea how it may have gotten off-center for you in the first place?
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Call me self-actualizing or call me schizoid, I'll answer to either one.