My T dresses totally different from the way I do--more sophisticated--and she has so many outfits that in 6 years, I think she wore the same one only once! I'm very conscious of how she dresses because, how can I put this, I get intimidated by someone who looks/dresses so much differently from the way I do. I don't wear much make-up, either, and my clothes are casual. My T wears jewelry that I would never wear, also. Showy type things.

One day she came dressed in casual gym clothes. She was a little embarrassed, and said she messed up her schedule and didn't have time to change. I felt so much more comfortable with her during that session! We talked about why her clothes make such a difference to me. I think it's because I judge people by the way they look. If they are unlike me, then I don't think I can relate to them. But I learned from my T that outside appearances don't matter. It's what is inside that counts.