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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte
As I drove home today from T I had an unsettled feeling--a little anxious, a little angry, a little dissatisfied until tears were streaming down my face--I felt like something had been taken away from me and I realized it was my experience. T imposed his opinion about something I had experienced. He didn't give me room to own my own experience, to meander through the maze I needed to navigate in order to arrive at my own understanding. I felt usurped. I think the feeling is familiar and one which I rail against vigorously. It's an old old feeling. The value of the exchange lies in the transference/countertransference and then my willingness or ability to address this with him which I will. Stay tuned.
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You know reading this, I was feeling my own feelings of anger just imagining having someone insert their "take" on something and not letting me get to my own "take", and I think this has happened between me and T in some form, perhaps not exactly like you describe here. when I next raised this issued, T said something like, its ok to not always get "it" right, and in her sometimes getting it "wrong", it gives me more chance to get it "right" for myself. Hope this makes sense.