Chrystal: I know what you're going through! I've been there! I just started a social group on the PC forum called: Issues relating to termination of therapy. Click on your "Private Messages" above and there will be a menu on the left. One of them says "social groups." Click on that and you'll find a long list of groups, including mine.

Did you read what Bether posted? That's the best way for therapy to end, with you feeling the attachment without needing to be with your T. My first T told me I could always have a part of her inside of me. My termination with her was sort of forced; I felt pressured to quit, and I was miserable for a long time afterward.

Are you seeing another T? I used to talk about my former T with my next one, in order to resolve the transference. Attachment is good, not bad, but it IS difficult when you have to leave your T before you are ready. One important thing is to allow yourself to grieve for your T. The loss is real!

About coffee with her. I'm not sure that's a good idea or not. My T (I've terminated with her but I can still be in contact with her) told me we can't have lunch or ever be friends, but I can call her or set up an appointment. I think the coffee is just a place to meet instead of the office, but it does not make you and your T friends.

I know this is so hard for you! We can discuss more about termination issues in the social group if you want.

BTW, I am "old" and feel the strong attachment to my T, who is about my age. Age of client or T is irrelevant.