I am so very attached to T in a maternal way and he's a guy and we're both "old." LOL
I think it's a healthy attachment and we have discussed it so he knows how I feel. At one point I expressed my confusion because I'm also very attached to H (been married a looong time). T said why not get what you need from each of us? So the attachment is real, it's loving and it's good. I don't plan on giving it up anytime soon and someday hope to have internalized as beautifully as Bether has articulated. Yes, I am experiencing some positive aspects of attachment for the first time in my life, and I am very grateful for that. Yep-I am healing through this attachment.