I respect each person's right to their own thoughts and opinions, but I resent angry judgements in posts.

Lucky is the person who does not have to learn the hard way.
Gracious is the person who did and remembers how frightening it felt, the internal torment, the regrets, the wanting to be some place better but not knowing how to get there, being overwhelmed when not knowing what to do.

Growth comes in many forms and is quick for some, slower for others.