Hi hanginon,

You were correct in telling your T your feelings. 8 cancels/changes/etc is a lot. One of my doctors has a policy about patients not showing up for their appointments on time, or at all, after 3 times, they may be asked to find a different doctor. It's all about 'their time' "their convience'.

Well, you are also very important, your time is also important, you being moved around like that is not professional at all. Maybe your T is having an issue. But you don't have to be a part of her issue when it costs you so much in your driving time, your gas, and even more emotionally.

In the 3 years or so that I did therapy in the '80's I only had my T not available one time. And that was when I phoned to make an appointment, expecting to get in ASAP. I had to wait a few days. It felt horrible to me at the time. But it was very reasonable on his part.

You have done your part as a client. Trust is the most important thing in a T relationship. I think your T has taken advantage of your "compliance" and "not wanting to rock the boat" and your not wanting to make anyone mad at you. You want to be liked. That's normal, but she is really pushing it as far as her responsibilies to you.

Good for you for sticking up for yourself. It's about time to not bury your feeling just to be "accepted". It better not be about the fee your T agreed on, either. Sorry I sound so hard, it makes me mad for someone to be taken advantage of, especially someone as sweet as you