I'm with them,it's abuse. Maybe you and Kimmy and I had sisters for THE MOTHER. I guess I would ask why you put up with it? Why do you go there? You don't deserve to be hurt. She's off the deep end. Explain to your family what you are doing, (hubby and kids) change your number. Set up a way to see your dad on the sly if he will go along with it, if not then he chooses her over you and he loses out on your contact and love you have for him. Just ideas. I do not think I could be treated like that now with-out calling her out on it and possibly calling the police if the disturbing the peace got too out of control.