Lady D.....
Frankly, I think this whole situation has been blown way out of proportion. There is only a very small number of people that were caught up in this controversy. I would hope that it ends here and now and that more people don't get involved. The whole thing has the potential to get out of control.
I never suggested that you were privvy to information, but other posts here have suggested that there was information and reasons why this individual should not be posting here. That was good enough for me. Unfortunately others did not share in that trust and took the opportunity to publicly criticize people in a hurtful way.
Lets just end this hole thing for God's sake. It just isn't worth it.