(((((((hangingon)))))))))

i'm glad that you can see this is her issue - her being unprofessional, and her getting defensive. please keep it that way, and don't turn this around onto you, the way she is encouraging you to do so. the reason she is criticising you for talking to us is because she doesn't want her behaviour to be confirmed as unhelpful by outside sources. if it's just kept between you and her then she can use her power to convince you it's a problem with you. (which we all know it's not).

i was in shock reading your post. i know you have been having issues with your T, but i totally did not see this coming either. but i think it is better that you know now that is not willing to change, because it means you can get out of a bad situation and find someone more worthy of your trust.

her saying that she didn't have a name - that's just her being spiteful, again. at any rate, i would prefer to go to someone not connected to her at all. maybe your college counsellor will have some ideas?

i'm so sorry this has happened.