(((((((((((((((Hangingon))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry this happened to you. I agree with everyone here, your T was very unprofessional. Consistency is very important. A lot of us face abandonment fears, T cancelling so much would trigger me. I have been seeing T for almost two years x2 and 3x weekly, he has never canceled once. He is there when he says he will be. That consistency helps me overcome my fears and become more trusting and open.

You've become quite fond of this T but you need to find someone who you can work with and will be there for you. Is there a trusted friend or a doctor you know who you can ask for a referal? You have this week to think about what you want to do. I would go see her next week to see where she is at, but I believe she handled this situation poorly. Do you think you can work this through with her and move on??? That's what you have to ask yourself. What happens when she cancels again? How are you going to feel? You need to answer these questions and see whether she can meet your needs. You are working very hard to heal from the abuse you endured. That requires that you work with someone who can be there while you uncover and face the pain. I'm trying to heal too, I would be unable to do it with someone who did not offer me consistency, safety, understanding, empathy, availability, and support.