I like what Deidre had to say. You can be there for your dad and still take a stand to show your kids that none of you deserve to be abused. I wonder what dad thinks? Is there a way you can speak with him privately and ask his wishes for the remainder of his life? Perhaps he has some special things you can do for him. Maybe he would like you to make his health care decisions for him if he can't. It is not being a bad girl to refuse to put up with being abused, it's called protecting one's self.