wow Hanginginon, I must say this sounds about right. I am upset for you and angry for you (of course I get angry easily but still). First this woman tells you that you are wrong to seek whether your reactions are normal, it's not about normal - I would say seeking this was reasonable - but then she turns around and says that it's "not normal" for a private practice T not to cancel frequently. But THIS truly is NOT about normal; it is about the therapeutic relationship of only you and her, and she is breaking her end of the "therapeutic frame".

One of the basic responsibilities of the client is to show up. Conversely, one of the basic responsibilities of the T is to show up.

I have an aunt who gave her son a shirt and when he sent it down to the wash, she hid it and waited for him to ask where it was, and when he didn't, she said, you really don't like it do you? This is what she accused you of when you said, you have rescheduled or cancelled me 8 times - but it's not true Hangingon, ANYONE would notice that it was becomeing a pattern on her end and would stop to count up the times.

Ooooh, how defensive and power abusive she seems to me. I don'tthink it is a matter of trying to get you to tolerate more uncertainty - you are supposed to be allowed to go at your own pace, and making you cry so much is not how it's done. I am not a professional; i'm not even an experienced client; but I am a human being and expect to be treated with respect, and you too and I don't think you got it.

please don't judge all T's by the way this one has acted. Surely she is a rarity. NOW HEAR THIS: You have done nothing wrong.

HUGS