(Here's the post-and-run guy again. Gotta go to work soon.)
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Originally Posted by ThePainNeverDies
I do accept other getting triggered a lot more easily than I do when it happens to me, I care for them and I talk through it with them and help them to understand it a little better and calm down etc. That's exactly how it is. I'm fine with others being triggered and getting upset, but when it's me, nuh-uh. I'm not allowed..
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Meanwhile
they're probably fine with
you going through stuff, as long as it's not
them. And they (sounds like us, too!) care for you and talk through it with you and help you to understand it a little better and calm down ... That's the way the world works, actually -- what goes around, usually comes around.
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The people calling me fat and such weren't friends... They were The Adoptive Family.
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Yes, and in that respect, at least, they were no friends of yours.
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I don't know if they'll accept me, but there's such a huge part of me that would give anything to just see if they'll accept me.
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What will be the test for you, if they even
can accept you or not? How long do you think you'll give them? If it's as hard for them to accept you (for whatever problems of their own) as it is for you to let go of being accepted, this could turn into quite a long standoff.
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Maybe they had a hard time appreciating themselves, but IMHO, they are narcissists who hate everything and everyone that isn't like how they want them to be.
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Yes, and those are pretty much the same thing. They
could very well be narcissistic -- it would fit with how they treated you. If your own research supports it too, I'd say that pretty much clinches it.
Take care of yourself, hun!
