Hi Hanging on,

I know I'm coming in here pretty new and without seeing what's gone on between you and your t in the past, but if the way your therapist reacted to your letter is pretty usual for her, I think this t would drive me insane!

Its important for clients to feel heard and understood when they are having issues with therapy ..... what you DONT need, is for a therapist to react by pointing fingers back at you, and telling YOU that you need to watch YOUR transference, and by pulling away and saying that maybe they cant give you what you need (implying that you are asking for waaay too much .. which you definitely are not!)

I find it really hard to believe that this t is supposed to be specialising in treating adult survivors of child sexual abuse, and yet she doesnt acknowledge the need for consistency in sessions, and not having sessions being cancelled all the time!

I kinda wonder if you might not be better off with someone else Hanging On .... I know how hard it is to find a suitable and skilled therapist, and how difficult it can be to establish some sort of a trusting relationship .... but from reading this one thread and seeing your description of your t's reaction to your letter, I just dont know whether she is worth sticking around and trying to sort it out!

(ps - just my 2 cents .. and I really dont know the whole story, so I could be totally wrong)