good on your for still being open to seeing her change, hangingon. you have a lot more patience and hope than i do.

shame on her for her response. taking part of the blame, but then blaming you for not saying something earlier?! like what - you were meant to say something the 2nd time it happened, then she would only dismiss you as being highly sensitive. also - "take note of your transference". errr.... (i have nothing to say right here that doesn't involve a LOT of swearing... so might gracefully bow out).

do what you think is best, hangingon. if you think there is a chance this can get mended, then go in next week. but if you suspect that it'll just be another hour of her being defensive and hurting you, then i wonder if it wouldn't be better to avoid that sort of abuse.