OMG again!

She is trying to save her butt to whoever you talk to about this, in this email to you. The below statements (worded oh so professional, not the way she has treated you in that session) makes me want to puke. She has written this letter to only explain her phony clique things without talking about ANYTHING she has done wrong. How convenient for her. This letter isn't for you, it is for her, in case you contact the APA or to talk to other people.

1. I said that I am concerned that I cannot meet your needs, and ethically I have to share that with you.

Notice she doesn't say WHY, (maybe canceling 8 appointments in a short time). Notice how she is trying to be oh so ethical and professional.

2. I am deeply sorry that our work has been affected by your unexpressed concerns about the nature of our relationship.

Notice that she says work is only effected by what YOU have or have not done. NOTHING is said about the affect of the canceled sessions, (the main reason for your complaint and how it makes you feel) Nothing is said on how she treated you in that session.

3. Your therapy work should be whatever you need it to be, and it is your responsibility, even though I know it can be very hard, to express that to your therapist. I understand how difficult trust is for survivors, and, yes, it is something I am very familiar with many clients. In order for our professional relationship to be effective for your recovery, the more honest you can be, the better. So, if you had told me a schedule change was a problem or concern for you, I would have honored that, and affirmed your assertiveness.

OMG OMG OMG! You did tell her, and it doesn't matter how long it took, because when you did, she didn't honor that or affirm your assertiveness. She got angry, defensive, and tried to make you believe that what she does is NORMAL. She is so full of crap! She has responsiblities too in the "professional relationship." Notice how she only uses "schedule changes" and not her "cancellations" or "cancellations at the last minute while you are waiting for her in her waiting room."

4. You are correct in recognizing my counter-transferance -- I was, as I said, frustrated with explaining the changes I must make to my professional practice, and my intentions toward helping you. I hope you can also recognize the transference I noted in your expectation that I was treating you like the last therapist, and that my feelings were like your mother's and others who have negated your abuse, and denied you help.

Then the only counter- transference she is refering to is that she was only frusterated with the changes of her practice. What crap! Then she goes on to make you look like you are the one with the major transferences going on.

This letter is not written for you benifit, it is to cover her *** in case you bring this attention to anyone else. T's have a lot of power and really bad ones know how to use it for their benifit , and a lot of times other T's will pay attention more to what she is saying like in your letter, than what you might be saying.
Her letter is worded VERY CAREFUL, and it also is absent of any of things she has done. In fact it is very carfully worded to make you look like you are overly emotional abused little girl who is acting out against her (it is just transference because she has done nothing wrong she is showing). I am mortified about the letter she has written. I know a snow job when I see one and there is a damn blizzard in Psych Central tonight.

I am sorry if my words are harsh, I get so frusterated with the unprofessional attidude of some T's, and their abuse of their power and knowing they can get away with it because they usually do. Who is going to question a "professional T with all their training" against a "client with problems" Grrrrrrr.

Hanging on, Please don't see her anymore, she has way more problems that what you are seeing her for. She needs therapy more than ANY of us.