Your post bought me to tears. See i always believed the opposite, love is truly enough. But the people have to truly love and eveything else will come. Truly loving someone means putting them first, all their needs first thru patience and understanding. We dont always do that. We become selfish and want what we feel we deserve and expect that the person who claims to love us to give it to us. But by thinking this way we are not truly loving. Im crying because I am going thru the same thing as you. Except my husband has decided to leave because i found it so difficult to change. It hurt to read how happy you are now, how much better you feel without that pressure. Those were his same words to me and it hurt to know his happiness was away from me. As i try and hold back my tears I must realise that although I love him with all my heart and would do anything for him I was being selfish and not truly loving him. I should have been more willing to deal with my issues and been there to help him with his. Instead what happened is we both expected the other to do first and starting losing each other in the process. I should have loved him more and didnt realise it till he was gone. I also know if I truly love him then I must allow him to be happy where ever that may take him. Im sorry that I started rambling but reading your post made me realise how unhappy my husband was with me.