hangingon, i went back and read what she said here because i think it will give you clues to how she'll respond, at best, when you see her next week. i admit, like you, when i first read this i thought her response was ok and then was surprised by the other pc responses saying what a snowjob it was. so maybe i'm a bit naive or too trusting. i don't know. one thing did seem weird to me so i wanted to highlight it. she said:

she has apologized twice here but what is she apologizing for?? your thoughts and feelings. that isn't an apology. she's just saying she is sorry you are upset for what you think and feel. she really isn't taking any responsibility.

this one was pretty obvious. she's not sorry for anything she has done but just your actions which doesn't really mean anything.

i guess i'm really bothered by how she's presenting all these statements to look like apologies but without taking any responsibility for her own stuff. this seems really quite manipulative to me.

i think you are really brave to go in and see her again. trust your gut and don't let yourself be snowed by her fancy words. as upsetting as all this has been for you, you are really growing thru it by asserting yourself and standing up for yourself. if she responds poorly once again please do not blame yourself or think any of this was your fault. it really is her stuff and not yours. unfortunately, we don't have any control over how others will respond to us. our part is just to express our thoughts and emotions rather than stuffing them. that is the success regardless of the outcome of our doing that. if we get a good outcome, her response, that is a bonus but a bad outcome is no reflection on you because as i said we just don't have any control over that. so, just by speaking up, in whatever fashion, you win and you grow even if she responds poorly. here's hoping she responds well.