Hello Miss ((((((((((((((Ginniesky)))))))))))))))))))

Good for you for not coming here because it might trigger... self care is important, and that small act is still self-care!!

I have to find "safe places". Lying in bed, it's easier for me to cry than other places. Alone in my bathroom at home is another safe place to cry. Sometimes T's place is safe, sometimes not... that's something most people try to work on, T's office so you can express yourself more there... find ways to make it safer.

It really is hard. I admit it, I still hate crying in front of people. But if you don't, eventually you're going to POP! and that's not good either.

Try it in small ways... find a safe place at home, maybe with a stuffed animal or something else comforting (AND SAFE) nearby. Then, you can bring that stuffed animal/object elsewhere with you after a while, to help make new places more safe...

Me?? When I feel like crying, I put my HUGE purse/bag on my lap and cry into it or hide my head. You know I'm about ready to cry when I do that... it makes me feel safer, it's a barrier between me and other people.

Building trust takes time though... first, try talking to the person you'd like to be "safe". Try not lying to them first. If they cry/express emotions, then sometimes we feel okay letting ourselves do that too!! Otherwise, someone telling you that you are allowed to feel what you feel, and that you are allowed to cry... that can sometimes really help.