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Welcome to PC

I don't have a lot of answers, as I am only in therapy for the first time (but have been going for a little over a year and a half, twice a week). My T uses an eclectic approach, but mostly psychodynamic/humanistic, so I don't have a lot of experience with the "blank slate" approach.

However, I SO understand the urges for reassurance and the cravings to see him. That was very very hard for me at the beginning of therapy. Since then, it has kind of ebbed and flowed, but I almost never spend the amount of time thinking about him that I did early in therapy. It felt like an obsession - I thought about him ALL the time.

I don't have a lot of advice other than to trust the process. It's been slow-going, but my needs for him have changed over time. I do have a fair amount of contact available to me between sessions, and I really think that helps calm down the "OMG I have to see him!" feelings.

I'm sure you'll get many more helpful responses, but I didn't want to leave you hanging! Stick around, there's a lot of support here