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Elysium · Jun 15, 2009, 08:27 PM

Oh Hangingon!!!

I've come into this so late, but I read back to your recent threads and I just couldn't stay quiet.

I have been seeing the same therapist, in private practice, for over FIVE years, and she has only canceled about four times. Once because her daughter was sick (she's a single mother), twice because of inclement weather, and once because she was sick. I have also seen other therapist throughout my life who never canceled either, so to hear you repeat what you T said about not knowing anyone else that won't cancel as much as her is a bunch of BS!!

I'm soooo hurt and angry for you!!

You have every right to ask for consistency, as does any patient, when working on issues such as trust and attachment, and trauma. It is extremely unprofessional for you T to take that attitude.

In regard to the email you sent your T (I think it was the second one), you know, it sounds so much like you are being HER therapist in that email. It almost seems like a bit of role reversal there and I think your T is manipulating the situation to cover her butt.

I think she is right. She IS NOT what you need. You need a T that is going to respect your needs and keep appointments as scheduled. If it were you that were changing and canceling appointments so much, not only would your T not put up with that behavior...not only would she keep track of how many sessions you changed/canceled but she'd probably also charge you for any cancelations made that weren't given within 24 hours of your session.

I know that it is sooooooo hard to transfer to a new T, especially when you've had two previous experience that are making you head for the hills. But this woman just isn't up to par. It sounds like she has her own issues and this is one big one for her. Let her own the problem!! You don't need it. Find a new T and move forward. There are good ones out there, unfortunately there are some bad apples out there too.

Take care.....I'm here for you!!