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Originally Posted by morning_view
... lately I've found that chats are harder to get into because there's always somekind of "private joke" or "in-conversation" that happens between 2 or 3 people, and everyone else is just left reading it.... which for some people (myself included) is disheartening....
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Chat does tend to suffer from the problem of too many people in "need" mode and not enough people there in "give" mode. We all have both modes, sometimes we feel strong and we like to find others we can help support; other times we feel messed up or needy or in crisis, and need support from others. But yeah sometimes you go to chat and you try to talk and someone else brings up that their mum has cancer (or some other thing that socially speaking it would be only proper to regard as way more important than your concerns) so you end up shutting up so as not to "siphon" other people's support & energies away from someone else who clearly needs it more than you do. But this does result in going away empty more often than not.
Hmm. Wonder what we could do to improve this situation? Any suggestions or ideas?