I really don't know the full extent of your relationship with this man, but if I was left 3000 miles away from my home, I would get out. You also need to think about your kids. Honestly I wouldn't even want him around my kids. Not only did he leave you stranded, but you need to think about you and your kids safety. Sounds a little to dangerous for me. Seriously, I would let him go. Sorry I'm not trying to upset you. I'm just telling you what I would do.