when i used to immerse myself in GLBT culture (my ex was a covenor for a group on campus) i didn't find i blended in very well when we went out to clubs etc.

however, as i got to know more and more people on the scene, they would also learn to respect what i was comfortable with and i found that really awesome because they would organise stuff to include me. so whilst yes, a lot of them went to the footy on a saturday, we would also have picnics at the beach, go out for nice dinners etc. i even convinced them all to go to a high tea party once (the ladies were uncomforable, the gay boys lapped it up!).

your post kind of makes me feel a bit upset. yes, i didn't blend into the crowd either but i bothered to make friends with these people and treat them like individuals (instead of caricatures) and they did the same to me. i learnt that a lot of them wanted to start a family one day (this is not something i'm interested in myself) and i think i did a good job of challenging their initial perceptions of me also.

when i split with my ex i stopped frequenting the scene so much, and if i ever were to return i think there would be a bit of that 'outsider' feeling again. but i also know it's possible to be accepted for who i am, so long as i'm not actively pushing ppl away because they don't live up to my ideas of what is and isn't acceptable.