We have been married 23 years. We have discussed many things recently, I'll describe the details below. Most importantly, she said she never felt sexually attracted to me during our marriage. That hurt. She said that our relationship is perfect in all ways, except for that, we did have sex frequently, rarely good however. Now the details (not in any particular order): she recently went back to work after basically being a stay at home Mom raising our 4 kids; she is a lawyer and works mainly with lawyers - mostly men; she was very uncomfortable with her skills and relied on help from other lawyers outside of her firm and developed a close relationship with one man who gave her quite a bit of help in her work. She describes their relationship as being friends. This is what she has told me. She did say that her sexual desires have become heightened, but she is not interested in our sexual relationship. Basically, she said if we had a closer sexual relationship she feels that she would not have gotten to the point where she has become curious, attracted towards others. She said she wants to get our relationship fixed and stay together. The options are continue as we were, or attempt to improve our sexual relationship, or call it quits. It is very sad to think of the last option, even the first option is pretty sad. How do we make the second option work? We have talked about the details of sex and a major problem is PE. But she has a mental block toward our sex.