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Originally Posted by sw628
Has anyone ever been jealous of their T? I found myself in a weird place tonight as T was talking about the benefits of therapy. She mentioned how much she has grown and that the time and money spent was well worth it in the end. After that's she went on to say that her marriage is the strongest it has ever been and how happy she is with what she has ( family, friends etc. While i was so happy to hear this, i couldn't help but think, "Why do I have to be the broken one"? Why can't i have this? When will I get to feel this way? While T was rambling on, I felt guilty having such thoughts bounce around in my head. She seems to have it all together .T has her husband, children,friends and a job she loves. The glow on her face while she was talking about it said it all. It's just sickening to me, more so because I'm still young and haven't figured it all out yet.
Has anyone felt like this?
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how long have you been in therapy for, sw? i can understand feeling jealous, but i think your T really was only sharing that to show you "hey, i've been where you are - was a "broken one" too, and you can also have what i'm having in time".
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Originally Posted by TrespassersWill
Don't believe everything you hear though. Your T may be trying to get you to aspire to have what she says she has to give you something to strive for. However her life may not be that perfect as many people that brag about such a great family life often are just lying. Its a wellknown fact the majority of all medical professionals get divorced. Out of all the psychs and neuropsychs I've seen only one was currently married btw.
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i don't think Ts typically lie or manipulate their clients that way. i don't think sw's T was "bragging". many ppl who do get excited about what they have are only sharing it because they are so happy about it - not because they are covering up. why would sw's T feel the need to lie to her? if she wanted to motivate sw, there are other ways to do so.
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How much do you think these guys make anyway? Anyone ever done the math?
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Ts typically make decent money (in australia anyway) but no where near as much as what they could make given that they have put in just as many years of study/training as other medical professionals.
it's not something you enter in to because you want to be super rich. there are other fields in psychology (e.g., organisational & coaching psychology, HR) which you can follow if money is what you want, and it takes a lot less time to get there also.
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Ask yourself this- what is a therapist doing needing therapy anyway? Then don't feel so bad then because she ain't no better than any of the rest of us.
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many training programs require that a T has been in therapy for a certain number of hours (around 100) before they are allowed to become licensed. my current T was telling me just today that the place he trained through wouldn't even accept
applications unless they could prove they had done therapy already.
your question is kind of like asking "what is a GP doing getting sick, anyway?". GPs aren't immune from what they treat, and neither are Ts.
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Originally Posted by sw628
Has anyone felt like this?
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for what it's worth - yes, i have. i kind of envy pdoc having the wife, 2 kids & a dog formula and that he never had to really struggle through uni like i have. but at the same time, he is so committed to helping me, that it's not something i'd ever want him to not experience either. i want the absolute best for him because i adore him and he deserves it.
my old-T on the other hand...
. i dont think i was just jealous, i think what i felt at times amounted to anger. to me, it felt like he just lived in this little bubble world of goodness and that he didn't understand, or refused to acknowledge, that life wasn't like that for everyone else. i really wish i had the life he had growing up and the life he managed to create for himself after. that kind of ignorance/insensitivity to the 'real world' is kind of a luxury, i think.