I'm a little bit jealous of my t's ability to travel to foreign countries on vacation. She's gone to Mexico, Eastern Europe, and Spain during the time I've been in therapy with her. I've also felt a little bit jealous of her kids. My t is a social worker married to a psychiatrist, and I've often thought that their kids probably got tons of interest, support, and concern from their parents growing up.

When my t's youngest child was getting ready to go to college, they were considering letting her go to a private women's college out-of-state that costs $40,000 per year in tuition alone. I remember one time when i came to my session, my t's eyes were all red, like she'd been crying. When I asked if she was OK, she told me that she'd been feeling sad and scared about having her daughter leave home and attend college out of state. I remember thinking that they must be very close, and how wonderful it was that she loved her daughter so much that she'd get emotional about it 6 months before it was ever going to even happen. I'm not sure my mom ever felt very sad about me getting married and moving out. I don't remember her ever saying that she'd really miss me.

My t's daughter ended up choosing a local college to go to, but she is doing some kind of foreign exchange thing and is currently completing some of her studies in Spain.